How sad to see it not, in public places in the
afternoon at 15.00 pm on October 10, 2012 me and my friends want to enjoy the
atmosphere Jakabaring center and just want to take pictures as a result we get
is the number of young men and women who are dating in advance common to do
things that are not fair and not appealing to the eye such as hugging, holding
hands, even so, we should be able to enjoy the beautiful Jakabaring center but
instead we get busy with a look at who is not worthy to be seen, while in a
trance begitujuga musi or also known as TM freshmen and sophomores do not look
good for the cuddle.
Dating, courtsip, or better known as courtship is a
normal thing experienced in adolescence. Most teens are condemned to a phase
where they will develop a love relationship with the opposite sex. Some people
will experience dating relationships even more than once. Courtship can be
defined as a relationship between two individuals who made an agreement which
consists of commitment, intimacy, passion, dating relationships are the
foundation of the journey towards marriage. The purpose of dating is to find
themselves and find a partner who is really right for him and would become his life
partner
But the difference at this point, for most of the
teenagers dating was considered a regular thing or is considered as a
lifestyle. If not going out, he was not considered slang and did not sell.
Styles vary each pair to express their love and
affection towards your partner. Most who dared to simply express affection or
words with the term rag, some are already daring hold-grip hand. There are even
more extreme is not reluctant to cuddle, then propagates further by kissing.
Naturally, if the action had been considered already too reasonable.
whereas Indonesian society has customs. This happens
because foreign cultures are negative already inflamed among teenagers for
example using revealing clothes genitalia, dating is extreme, and so on, it can
happen because of ignorance of the public about the environment and even the
lack of supervision and parental education on children their children so that
they dare to dating that is extreme.
Of the opinion of the majority opinion of people if
dating today've not reasonable anymore. Moreover, many events are now courting
are already past the normal limits. "According to my dating style today do
not think about the negative impact that thinking is only in their moment of
pleasure," said Melly (18) Mahasiswai IAIN Journalism majors. Nia differ
with the opinion of the Department IAIN journalism student found "dating
style is too over the limit today, still hold small-aja udah handrails lah, lah
arms, which certainly does not fit the norms of religion and customs, it should
not need to lebay like that , if it comes to nothing because the act of
courtship, what can I say,? and you want responsibility?? Still snot-nosed kids
already wrote ngurusin household, even going out because I think people love
each other that's nonsense, especially the children still in school and still
inexperienced. The point people are dating each other it is not love but lust
alone "said Nia clear
But it's not all going to be negative as well which
were dictated by Frescha daughter Andini (18) student of IAIN Department of
Islamic Economics (EKI) that courtship is much that is positive as well really
like going out can help us in lessons, especially if our boyfriends who smart,
courtship can make take care of each other, dating to solve the problem, let
alone kalu he's filled with the solution. But depending on each of us
personally want to do dating culture that is negative or positive "said
Frescha clear.
There are also some tips for safe dating such as:
1. Never berduan in the dark, because in the dark can
be invited to do the things that are not good
2. Parents need to know who we are boyfriend and her
origins, so that parents do not worry when we go out with him
3. Avoid dating until late at night, because it is not
a good thing when dating until late at night
4. Open with each other, sharing each other and
feelings in an open, honest, willing to come clean with how we feel about the
behavior of a boyfriend. Ready to accept criticism and compromise.
5. Avoid to always be alone, because going to be a gap
of Satan to influence us to sin, reproach sedit any, would make the devil go to
make us sin
But it all depends on each of us personally as well
as the proverb says: "Do not be serupah in this world, but be transformed
by the renewing of yourself, so that you can distinguish Which will of God,
what is good, pleasing to God and those perfect".
From here it is expected that Make courtship culture
that is positiif, in order to slowly change the mindset of young people in the
act, even though we know in this modern era, many foreign cultures are negative
and positive, so take this outside culture that is positive and remains firm in
our own culture in order to be a young man who has an understanding of foreign
cultures and the culture of its own, as well as care for life and producing
youthful quality.
